1/14/15
I never intended this blog to cover my case as detailed as I have been, but I am hoping it does help others realize they are not alone in their struggles. Also, I hope to provide insight to the whole process and the different feelings, situations, outcomes, details and other important stuff that pertains to different custody cases, in the effort to try and help others. At this point my lawyer has rejected the other lawyers claims with a dismissal and we have been ordered to mediation. This is actually the fourth time I am going to mediation, but the courts might only know about three times because the other party walked away from the bargaining table before there was any real agreement to take back to the judge on one of the occasions.
Before this time of mediation, I was instructed that I needed to attend the C.O.P.E. class at the YMCA again which cost $60 every time you take it and I have now found out is required more than once for many people. Also, court mediation orientation was also scheduled again to watch videos that I have already seen. Both C.O.P.E. class and the mediation orientation videos are very outdated in my opinion since they appear to be made in the 1980's or 1990's which I am surprised with all the ease at which they could make a new video or probably obtain new material. Certainly with the changes to families, certain things are good to mention and are not being mentioned in those videos, like the use of cell phones or emails as communication between parents and children.
This time around the other parent was not at the mediation orientation which I questioned and was told sometimes there separate times given. I was advised to contact the mediator within 3 days which I did. The mediation began and ended quickly with the other parent not wanting to fully negotiate and making the same requests for what was rejected with the lawyer's dismissal.
Close to Christmas, I find out the other the other parent's lawyer is stating the other parent doesn't need to go to mediation orientation which I don't think is going to fly with the judge. Since then, the other parent has been instructed to go to a new appointment for oreintation due to missing the first appointment. Basically, if one parent goes, you need to go too. Both parents need to show they can follow rules and it helps in knowing they both had the same information presented to them to help move the case along in a balanced format.
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Wednesday, January 14, 2015
Friday, November 7, 2014
Attempts to Use False Claims To Modify Custody
11-7-2014
Well, my harassment letter set off the other parent and they filed for a change of custody. The change of custody was filed with the courts by a new lawyer for the other parent. The reasons for the change of custody are all false and unfounded. The claims are use of dirty tactics to try and reverse a supervised parenting contract. I was actually surprised a lawyer would take a case when the other parent is involved in harassing behavior, but the lawyer must not be aware.
My first paragraph was written prior to obtaining my own representation. I have chosen to go with the lawyer that handled my case the last time around. My lawyer advised me that it sounds like they are just throwing darts trying to hit something. Still, there is the possibility this other parent will obtain more time and that time will be potentially unsupervised. My son has serious issues that emanated from living with the other family and to put him back for extended periods unsupervised is just plain crazy, but I guess a real possibility.
I am presenting my harassment information to my lawyer. My hope is that I have a case against the other parent for their harassing behaviors. I am unclear what consequences the other parent will face, but their bad behavior can't continue to go unchecked. Besides, the harassing behavior hasn't stopped even after the letter and the initiating of this court proceeding by the other parent.
A lot of my hopes are riding on that DHS wrote in their notes the danger of unsupervised visits for the other family as they closed the case. As DHS was closing the case, they advised me that the visits were unhealthy and they said the visits should be professionally supervised, but I asked for a letter stating that and they wouldn't produce it. I was told the reason for not giving me the letter was that the DHS supervisor doesn't like employees getting pulled into court battles and works to keep the workers out of the courts. Still, the closing documents might contain statements from the worker acknowledging the family is still volatile and the youngest child is best not being placed back with the other family for safety reasons. Besides, DHS can be called into to court regardless to attest to the different issues involving this other family.
To further help my case, I have obtained for myself letters from medical staff that sees my son to prove that I am a safe and stable parent helping to provide the best care for my son. Letters from professionals can help to show that you are following the advice of those professionals and providing the best care for your child.
Overall, I can't say I like going through the legal system. The legal system takes up time and money and sometimes courts don't solve the problem. I don't believe the other parent and I can ever work out an amicable solution because we stand at opposite ends of the issue. My goal is to protect my son and if the other parent is unstable and could put our son in harm's way, I feel it is my duty to defend my son. I will post on how things are going as the information becomes available.
Well, my harassment letter set off the other parent and they filed for a change of custody. The change of custody was filed with the courts by a new lawyer for the other parent. The reasons for the change of custody are all false and unfounded. The claims are use of dirty tactics to try and reverse a supervised parenting contract. I was actually surprised a lawyer would take a case when the other parent is involved in harassing behavior, but the lawyer must not be aware.
My first paragraph was written prior to obtaining my own representation. I have chosen to go with the lawyer that handled my case the last time around. My lawyer advised me that it sounds like they are just throwing darts trying to hit something. Still, there is the possibility this other parent will obtain more time and that time will be potentially unsupervised. My son has serious issues that emanated from living with the other family and to put him back for extended periods unsupervised is just plain crazy, but I guess a real possibility.
I am presenting my harassment information to my lawyer. My hope is that I have a case against the other parent for their harassing behaviors. I am unclear what consequences the other parent will face, but their bad behavior can't continue to go unchecked. Besides, the harassing behavior hasn't stopped even after the letter and the initiating of this court proceeding by the other parent.
A lot of my hopes are riding on that DHS wrote in their notes the danger of unsupervised visits for the other family as they closed the case. As DHS was closing the case, they advised me that the visits were unhealthy and they said the visits should be professionally supervised, but I asked for a letter stating that and they wouldn't produce it. I was told the reason for not giving me the letter was that the DHS supervisor doesn't like employees getting pulled into court battles and works to keep the workers out of the courts. Still, the closing documents might contain statements from the worker acknowledging the family is still volatile and the youngest child is best not being placed back with the other family for safety reasons. Besides, DHS can be called into to court regardless to attest to the different issues involving this other family.
To further help my case, I have obtained for myself letters from medical staff that sees my son to prove that I am a safe and stable parent helping to provide the best care for my son. Letters from professionals can help to show that you are following the advice of those professionals and providing the best care for your child.
Overall, I can't say I like going through the legal system. The legal system takes up time and money and sometimes courts don't solve the problem. I don't believe the other parent and I can ever work out an amicable solution because we stand at opposite ends of the issue. My goal is to protect my son and if the other parent is unstable and could put our son in harm's way, I feel it is my duty to defend my son. I will post on how things are going as the information becomes available.
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